Safe Spaces

Do you ever think about who truly know you inside and out....the person that knows every meaning behind the things you say or do.

Or that one place where you can just breathe. You’re not stressed or pressured... where you feel most comfortable and vulnerable.

Or maybe that one thing that you absolutely have to have to feel like you’re ok. It’s almost like you need that one thing and don’t want to it let go.

To have a true safe space is to be a blessed individual. Safe spaces can be a person, place, or thing that we naturally gravitate to in our time of need for comfort and peace. As a minority, we know about “safe spaces” all too well. A safe space can be a lot more outside of public forces. In the past, my safe space was thing. It was either painting, writing, dancing and at one point it was Mr. Snuggles (Don’t judge me, I’ll tell you all about that another time). Especially in undergrad when I experienced many traumatic events. I had to have a paintbrush in my hand to remotely feel like everything will be ok. Painting was my escape to feel safe whenever I needed. It was just something about painting that naturally gravitated to me. It was more than a skill, more than a hobby, more than a passion. Painting was my safe space.

We’re forever evolving. I realized that I needed more than just a thing to feel safe. That’s when I worked on becoming more vulnerable and allowing more emotional relationships with people. I quickly gravitated to person being my safe space. That’s when I felt the most comfortable in communicating or just being around my person and feeling that same feeling of safety, comfort and peace. The only thing about person being a safe space is that people are not reliable. Anything can happen to break that sacred relationship. Bad terms or distance can eliminate your safe space from you. This is something I’m currently learning and realizing this person safe space is just a little too unreliable for me.

And here we are today. Left with place. Now I’m currently working on creating the ultimate safe space for me with my home. For years I’ve always placed strong values on where I live. Many close friends and family have never seen my place or only once. I’ve been like this for the past 5 years. As I’ve grown into my spiritual journey, I’ve completely limited who I allow in my house. I’m currently working on transforming my home into the ultimate safe space that brings me absolute peace and comfort. It’s taking me a little longer than expected but its a project that I have thoroughly enjoyed and it’s worth the reward.

Now I’ve mentioned serval times in many of my writing pieces that we, as humans, are quite fluid individuals. At any moment during my safe space place journey, I could go back to thing or find another person. My main goal is to give myself whatever type of safe space I need. Life is already hard enough. My internal safety should always be a high priority. Is it possible to have all three person, place, and thing as one safe space? Yes. But hey what do I know!?

Tristiny